So today was supposed to be my first day of no-contact in my relatively recent break up….and I broke it. There are still some loose ends to tie up, he still hasn’t gotten all of his stuff from the house, but there was no good reason for me to contact him today and I did. I was the one who asked for no contact because he had started big fights 2 of the 4 days since he moved out…and many prior to that. I noticed he deleted pictures of me off his Facebook, last night he was talking about “working better together and reconnecting, getting back together”, and I confronted him on this discrepancy…and I know I shouldn’t have. It wasn’t helpful, he just denied and deflected, and also knows now that I didn’t make it through a single day. I’m not going to let this define me and I know I can do better tomorrow, but I still feel pretty crummy about it. I was doing so good and let it all go in an instant, impulsive decision. This isn’t starting off the way I hoped it would. Ugh.
Last updated on:2026-06-01T20:48:11+05:30
Comments (3)
hat stood out to me was him talking about reconnecting one night and then deleting photos the next. was that kind of push-pull behavior something that happened a lot during the relationship?
i wouldn't beat myself up over one impulsive text. what helped me was treating no contact like a practice, not a pass-or-fail test, because i had a few false starts before it finally stuck.
broke no contact on day one too, after swearing to myself i wouldn't. the thing that stung most wasn't even the conversation, it was feeling like i'd let myself down