I was talking to my friend yesterday and she asked me why I wanted to contact my ex so bad. And to be honest, I said to her that it was more than me feeling like I wanted to contact him, it’s more that I don’t want him to forget me. If a genie knew exactly the date that my ex would contact me back and we could finally be back to what we were and he told me, I would find this whole no contact period easier. not better, but easier. Because then I could heal without fear of him never coming back. I would know it would all work out in the end and I’d have something to look forward to. But I can’t know when he will come back, all I have is the fear of not knowing. My ex said we will get back together once he sorts his family issues out but again, I don’t know when that will be and I wish I did.
Last updated on:2026-06-04T18:07:13+05:30
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my ex kept telling me the same thing abd the more I asked him the more he kept avoidant it’s one and half year down the road . and he keeps posting other girls and gives me more distance and it’s so painful because I kept hoping for all this time but here I am choosing myself I know it’s a hard path but am going to try so. much to priotize myself and not wait onto him , it’s day 3…i pray it gets easier for both of us
the hardest part wasn't even missing her, it was the thought that one day i'd be a stranger to someone who knew everything about me. i kept wanting proof that i still mattered to her 💔
you are human and this is a completely normal part of grief. ruminating about the possibility of reconnecting makes the thought of accepting it might next happen, quiet down. we want to have hope and we want to keep a part of them alive inside of us.. so we keep them alive in our minds while it breaks us each day. true healing happens when you’re able to miss them but not want to reach out and you become okay with the fact that they won’t either.. pure acceptance with a sprinkle of graitutde 💓 hang in there!
the uncertainty is torture. i wasn't waiting for a text, i was waiting for certainty, and nobody could give me that. once i saw that, i stopped checking my phone every five minutes.
Trying to stop checking everything is so hard. did you find it any easier and has it given you clarity?
when he says you'll get back together after he sorts out his family issues, has he given you any idea what that actually looks like or how long it might take
no because when we initially broke up 6 months ago he told me we’d be back together in under 6 months…obviously that hasn’t happened and so I fell into the habit of keeping on asking him when we would get back together constantly and it felt so draining. he started to stop giving any answer because he had already let me down the first time and realised he needed longer than he thought. He’s said he’d rather say it will be a “longer time” until we get back together and lower “time expectations” than say a date and it doesn’t happen again like last time. He kept saying to stop seeing it as dependant on time and see it more of space to sort things out until it’s right again.
@DreamVib685 you need to go no contact and move on. Go live your life and stop waiting on something that might never happen. Focus on yourself!