It's been a year since we broke up: moving to his city

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my ex and i broke up a year ago. we had our share of arguments most of them came from me wanting more while he was doing the best he could. looking back now the things that felt so big at the time don't seem nearly as terrible as they once did. honestly i think the distance played a huge role in why we fell apart.
now a year later life has taken an unexpected turn. i'm moving to his city. it wasn't planned and it wasn't because of him. i got a job offer after my original plans didn't work out and i decided to take it.
part of me wants to tell him. i still miss him every day. but he's made it pretty clear that he doesn't want contact with me and i don't have the courage to reach out and tell him i'm moving there.
so now i'm carrying this strange mix of excitement for a new chapter and sadness for someone who no longer wants to be part of it.

Last updated on:2026-06-08T21:13:12+05:30

Comments (7)

SadReturn0
SadReturn0 1 wk ago

he suddenly reached out tomorrow, would you want him back, or do you think you're mostly mourning the future you thought you'd have together

teacup555
teacup555 1 wk ago

if he’s been clear he wants no contact it’s probably for the best you focus on yourself, no contact is one of the hardest things you’ll go through if it wasn’t on your terms, but the universe has a way of working itself out after some time. Best of luck on your new job!

misstalk
misstalk 1 wk ago

honestly, if he's been clear about not wanting contact, i'd focus on building your new life there first.

Ellen81
Ellen81 1 wk ago

Concentrate on this new opportunity and your own happiness. I'm sure moving to the same city will carry a lot of memories, but right now, you have to do what's best for you.

SweetDream985

focus on your self, self love is more important

mysticChu
mysticChu 1 wk ago

i moved to the same city as my ex about a year after we split, completely by coincidence, and every new street somehow carried an old memory. that mix of excitement and grief is such a weird thing to hold at the same time.

ChillAndFree618

congratulations on your new job...it will all work out.. sending love💕