My boyfriend of three years ended our relationship and it feels like it came completely out of nowhere. We were long distance and usually saw each other every other weekend but recently it had been over a month since we last met. I could feel some distance from him but I kept telling myself he was stressed with work and that we just needed a good conversation.
What makes this even harder is that only two months ago he asked me to move in with him. We were making plans for our future together and I was supposed to see him this weekend. Instead he called me yesterday and ended things over the phone. After three years together that hurts almost as much as the breakup itself. I feel like our relationship deserved more than a phone call.
Now I'm left completely shattered and searching for answers. He told me things like "it's not you it's me" and said he feels incapable of being in a relationship right now. He also said he still loves me but couldn't explain what changed. After three years of love commitment and plans for a future those words don't make sense to me. The lack of explanation has me replaying everything in my head wondering what I did wrong and where things fell apart.
What hurts the most is how someone can tell you they love you make plans to live with you and then walk away the next day. He hasn't reached out since. He's still sharing his location and our photos are still up which only adds to the confusion. Part of me keeps hoping he'll call but every day of silence hurts more.
I want answers. I want to understand what happened. Part of me wants to call him or drive to see him even though I know I shouldn't have to beg someone to stay. Right now I just feel heartbroken confused and completely lost.
Last updated on:2026-06-19T19:43:12+05:30
Comments (3)
before the last month of distance, had he ever shown signs of pulling away or struggling with commitment when things got more serious?
My girl broke up with me on a text message...She doesn't care anymore now. I tried calling her tons of time, even if she picks up the call, she sounds so cold. I don't know how can people change overnight.
That whole "I'm incapable of being in a relationship" line while literally planning to move in together is wild - like dude you were capable enough two months ago when you brought it up
The phone thing is cowardly as hell especially after 3 years but trying to get answers from someone who's already checked out mentally is just gonna mess with your head more. He's keeping you on the hook with the location sharing and posts which is honestly cruel