two months ago my ex broke up with me and it wasnt in the best way, we had just passer a whole day together, kissing and with him telling me how much he wants a future with me then when he brought me home he just like texte me that we should end things. a switch up luke that was one of my biggest fear in a relationship and now i met someone New that im so scared to have something with because i still think a lot about how it ended and i cant let myself be that hurt again. what should i do?...
Last updated on:2026-06-28T22:59:11+05:30
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that switch from “i want a future with you” to a breakup text is brutal. i had someone do something similar and it made me doubt my own reality for a long time, like i missed every warning even when i didn’t.
are you feeling scared of this new person, or more scared of the way your ex left you and that kind of surprise happening again
this happening again for sure
if it were me in the past I would say you're not ready or over your ex so I would continue to heal so you dont bring it into your next relationship. me being in n out of cycle with a narcissist for 10 years, I would be different now. does the new person know about ex and your fears? I would make sure the new person knows where you are at, even though that can risk them not wanting to deal with that and moving on. I honestly feel that the right next person will want to have patience with you. but a lot of people want fully healed people. so follow your gut. even if you dont trust your gut and yourself right now, it still screams at you regardless. being true to yourself and boundaries does include being honest with new person about where you are at. nothing wrong with saying that you need to go slow and letting them know why. problem with me is that if someone new came along in my life I would be afraid to tell them bc I feel like they would use it as ammo against me...use it to their advantage to get what they want in moment to discard me after. thats how paranoid I am after my narcissistic.