its been almost 4 weeks now since I was blindsided and broken up with, and my ex told me yesterday he is on the dating apps and ready to meet other people. I haven't been able to maintain any longer than 3 days NC at a time. I know its time.
I have to do this. in 2 hours it will be day 1. I am thinking if I check in here every morning. it will keep me accountable. So here we go.
I need to let go and stop Reopening the wound.
Last updated on:2026-07-10T13:54:48+05:30
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hearing he's already on dating apps is the kind of thing that makes no contact feel impossible.
or possible depending how you look at it.
i'm really glad you're doing this. i couldn't get past day 3 either for weeks. one day it finally clicked that every message just reset my pain back to zero. i'll be rooting for your day 1
Thanks I appreciate it 🫶
Hi, that is harsh. I broke up with my girlfriend on monday and it hurts (we ended it in a good way, she just did not have any more feelings towards me). I am in ho contact since and it is hard, but it helps me to acknowledge my feelings and understand, that by contacting them, I want the pain to go away, but in the long term, it will not help, we have to live woth the pain and one day, everything will be even better then before
im sorry to hear. Yes let's hope so 🫶
did he tell you he was on the apps because you asked, or did he just decide you needed to know?
He just told me. I guess he thought it would help me move on. 🤷♀️
this app is part of a daily routine I set. it has helped
I couldn't get pass 3 days I relapse 15 times and now I'm on day 15. I am so proud of my progress because I honestly wish I never see that man again. he altered my nervous system and left me in ruins and I hate him for that. you get there, just a day at a time. try to fight the urge to reach out.
yup
Its always day 3 that kills me.
@FrostJet725 you'll get pass it, I promise.
I swear there’s something about day 3! I’ve started and stopped no contact so many times and day 3 is always so so hard. just keep pushing through and reach out on here or to others who will hold you accountable or help when you have the urge
I know right! It starts to eat away at me.
I am just starting my NC as well. We can do this. We know that this is the right way to recover from the pain. Every day will get easier.
I certainly hope so. luckily I leave Saturday for a work conference so that should help keep me busy for a little bit. Good luck with your NC. 🫶
I kept resetting my healing by speaking to her every few days aswell. Its the worst thing you can do. Your brain likes familiarity , and it keeps returning to something familiar. You have to prioritise your health and future though. Melbourne in my opinion is one of the worst cities to be single in, because theres a billion things you can do on dates. It's brutal, but this is the fire that will shape us. Keep posting on here and in the chats, I will help where I can .
Thankyou. I have been following along with you. it must be so tough working alongside a person you had a relationship with.
Melbourne has also been incredibly cold i hear. im in Adelaide. I feel like it would also be much easier if these breakups happened in Summer. its easier to keep yourself busy. 🤪
@FrostJet725 Next Friday will be my last day at that workplace and hopefully I can close that chapter and start something new. I've driven to Adelaide and stayed at the Pullman. Amazing hotel, but the city was so lifeless and tiny 😅
you’ve got this! each day without contact means that you can do another day without contact
That's a great way to look at it. By day 3 I am loosing the plot. that's my weak point. Let's hope i can be strong this time.
I know how this feels. I have a small business associated with my ex and I haven’t been able to stop contact because I feel like it would hurt me financially. however, I am in financial ruin anyway. I need to just eat the costs until him and I can’t separate for good in a few weeks (when my business is set to close in that state). sending good vibes. we can do this!
I am really sorry you are in this position. that adds another layer of stress to an already yucky situation. I just felt the urge to reach out and I recorded a voice memo to myself instead and listening to it back it seems so pathetic I am glad I never called and said it. I guess it helped
@FrostJet725 I’ll have to try this! recording a voice memo to myself will help me hear what I sound like. it is sobering.