i hear all the time the post breakup fear of “what if no one loves me again?” or “what if i never find anyone who wants me the way he did” etc.
and i actually don’t have that at all. mine is the OPPOSITE.
my biggest fear right now and thing causing me all my sadness and anxiety is
“what if i never like someone the way i liked him”
i LOVED him. we only dated for 4 months but i knew him for a while before that and i was soooo into him. almost obsessed, i definitely had a future in my head. one day he just said he was checked out and couldn’t be with me. haven’t heard from him since.
while i do have an anxious attachment style, im also pretty confident and working on becoming more secure.
i feel like there’s no help for this online bc this really isn’t a fear of rejection or abandonment wounds.
its more like my own capacity to catch feelings for someone the way i felt about him.
idk
Last updated on:2026-07-16T01:25:27+05:30
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THATS WHAT IM THINKING i fear no one will cause such a feeling in my heart like he did but i still have hope that the universe will bring our ways back to eachother when the time is right
i wasn't scared nobody would want me, i was scared i'd never feel that excited about anyone again. i honestly thought i'd already had my ONE person.
i stopping myself from comparing every future person to the version of my ex that lived in my head, because i kept making it impossible for anyone new to exist.
do you miss who he really was, or the future you were already building with him in your head?
the way you love is in you,the ability of loving and caring is you,not him. of course you will love again,even better. You will find someone who reassures and deals with you out of love,not because he has to. I promise you will love again,not the same way but it will happen with the right person and he will love you just as much back.