im almost at 14 days which is the longest i’ve been able to do no contact!! however, i may have screwed up. the last thing he told me was he never wanted to hear from me again and he f***ing hated me. his birthday is next tuesday. I didn’t want to text him because that’s reaching out so i had two gift cards emailed to him and didn’t say they were me and just put happy birthday and one i did a note and happy birthday that he will likely tell it’s from me. i’m anxious this was the wrong thing and it’s going to make him more angry and confused. I still love and care about him and wanted him to know i didn’t forget his birthday… also when we would break no contact he would block and unblock me multiple times. since this last time he hasn’t blocked me at all which is very weird and i’m so confused. I want to believe he didn’t mean what he said. I miss him so much. I was the one who ended the relationship because he treated me poorly…
Last updated on:2026-07-16T21:30:40+05:30
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i couldn't control how he'd take it. i just kept counting my no contact days after that instead of starting over in my head.
did they reach out? i’m worried he will but at the end of the day i made the choice and feel good about it even though im nervous
what was happening in the relationship that made you finally decide to leave, even though you still love him?
the relationship was very unhealthy and my friends were worried for me and I just felt like I couldn’t do it anymore. I want him back because I do love him but know it won’t be any different….
made it two weeks, then found some tiny way to let him know i still cared because i couldn't stand the thought of him thinking i'd forgotten. try not to beat yourself up over it, this stuff is HARD.
thank you
its a hard one when its someone's birthday to know what to do. don't beat yourself up. its done now. If he gets angry it probably just confirms breaking up is the right move.
yeah you’re right…. i’m nervous but I ultimately don’t really regret it and think it’s what I wanted to do and not because I want him to reach out, genuinely so he knows I care for him. luckily I have therapy that day so it works out haha