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Me and My now ex...we both had the same name Honey and we were so much in love and tbh we still are. I was his first gf and he considered me as his First and Only Love.
But I've had a guy in my life before Honey but that guy never loved me he just wanted me physically so he manipulated me for 1.5 months by calling it a relationship. He tried so many times to make me say yes for sex but I didn't. We did have make out in cafe cabins a few time. From my side it was attraction but he just wanted the intimacy and not me. So we broke up coz I didn't wanna have sex and he used to go to other girls talking and flirting. Well I moved on from him real quick coz I realised my worth.
Cut to 2025, When I met Honey. We had a great chemistry. I never told him that I have kissed someone or had make out w someone before him so when he got to know he was so upset and angry that he asked to breakup but I cried and told him that you'll forget everything and we can't breakup like this n all. So he stayed and tried to forget everything but later again after 7months he saw a picture of me w my ex in my snapchat memory which I've had deleted but idk how it was still showing up on friends memories and he got so upset he said calmly that this cannot workout coz he is not able to forget any of this and it's hurting him and his anger was hurting my feelings too. So I told him to stay as friends only so I won't feel abandoned so he said yes he also wants me in his life like a friend. But as our feelings were already there strongly, we sometimes started flirting with each other and eventually he started asking me to have intimate relationship with him coz he can't help his feelings for me and he can't go to others coz he still Loves me but I denied coz I don't wanna do Friends w Benifits (FwB). Coz we have had sex with him many time before, I can't take this casually. And also because he was my first for this.
We tried no contact but it lasted only for 8days then he broke it then for 2 days and he broke it again. Then we started talking like friends again...last night he said he can't help his feelings for me and can't go to others for pleasure also so he does want the FwB relation or nothing coz it's hurting him too. And he also said if I don't agree for FwB, we would've to lose eachother forever. And we will never see or talk to eachother. And he gave me time to think about it but tbh I'm totally against the concept of FwB. I know I cannot do this but I don't wanna loose him too.
Last updated on:2026-07-28T18:11:12+05:30
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i stayed with someone because i was terrified of losing them too, and every compromise i made just left me feeling smaller. i don't think you're wrong for saying no to something your heart can't handle.