hi 👋!
me and my girlfriend (3 years) broke up today and it's so painful. we both love each other and care. but the problem is my allergi against cats (her family have cats) and that we have small fights and she was on holiday and I have done a lot of self work but it was to late. she didn't have it in her to be with me and we both need to be alone. But we still want to be friends and my hopes is that we still find each other again in the future and can build a healthy relationship. we have found each other before but just like friends. any advise how to do?
Last updated on:2026-08-03T20:49:11+05:30
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i wanted to stay friends right away too, but i realized i was using friendship to stay close while my heart was still hoping we'd get back together. giving myself some real space first was the only thing that stopped me from reopening the wound every day.
do you both genuinely want to be friends right now, or does part of you hope staying friends will lead you back to each other?
i had one breakup where nobody cheated and nobody stopped caring, life just got in the way, and that almost messed with my head more. i kept hoping we'd circle back too.
wait, because of cats?
yeah allergy and the constant compromise of spending time with the girlfriends family. But also small fights like dishes, what we wanna do. We pretty much didn't work in the way I'm a night person and she is a morningsperson that would like to have breakfast together and go for a walk in the morning
for me personally, I don’t wanna stay friends because I just couldn’t imagine seeing him with someone else 😠is it really because of the allergy?
yeah I understand you and I have the same fears. But I don't think either of us right now wants to see someone else for a long time. yeah and other stuff that I wrote in the other comment