i need advice. i’ve been doing pretty solid, some days i miss him more than others but i felt really good for the past 30ish days. but all of a sudden yesterday and today i just yearn for him. i think apart of me really thought he’d reach out. at 90 days of nc it’s pretty obvious im never going to hear from him again. we only dated for 4 months but id do anything to try again. i guess a part of me thought it was just a short break. idk when this new feeling of grief will go away. idek how to describe it, it’s less anxiety and more just sadness.
Last updated on:2026-08-07T23:41:58+05:30
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That is my biggest fear. that its not NC its dorever. sending u positive energy
letting go of the imaginary date i'd picked for them to come back. once i stopped waiting for that one message, the sadness came in waves instead of living with me every hour.
I remember reading somewhere that the three biggest waves hit at three weeks, six weeks and then three months. if that’s true, you’re probably going through your last big wave and hopefully it will get better for you from now on!
i hit that same wall around three months too, i kept thinking "today has to be the day they text." when it didn't happen, it felt like i was grieving the relationship all over again
hi do you miss who he really was, or the future you thought the two of you were still going to have?
it’s so important to let yourself feel these emotions 🩷 I had my first massive sob today on day 6
it's normal, healing isn't linear
you couldve done everything for him, I did everything for her, put shoes on her feet, food on her plate, a roof over her head and she still left. to go back to an abuser no less, sadly for something to work they half to choose to not give up, every day. but just becausr they didnt doesnt mean you did, dont let then tear that from you. the break goes from days to weeks, turns to months. nc isnt about them coming back, irs about you going back to yourself. buying things for you, going out for you. so just keep going, make a list of things to do for yourself. walks, excersise, vacation, eating out. and do it for yourself, by yourself. keep choosing love, youll never lose that way.