it was her bday yesterday, just a week after we broke up. she told me “maybe text me on my bday and we’ll see what happens.” not texting her yesterday was very difficult, becuase that hope is still there and i can’t do that to myself.
every day will get better, i knew her bday would be hard and sure enough it was.
i saw info that confirmed suspicions i had which did make it easier to not text her.. no contact means no contacts, screw your bday!
Last updated on:2026-09-04T21:54:12+05:30
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this hurt to read because i know how easy it is to turn one birthday text into reopening the whole wound.
when she said “maybe text me and we’ll see what happens,” did that make it harder to let go because you were holding onto the possibility that her birthday could bring you two back together?
yup, exactly. and i still was the one that closed that door
my ex’s birthday hit me way harder than i expected, and i spent the whole day fighting the urge to reach out because a tiny part of me still hoped it might change something. you did something really hard for yourself here.
im so proud of you!
I’m practically in the same situation … don’t feel bad about this - bdays are tough to navigate during NC.
oh my god why didnt you just say happy bday but then keep the no contact
because i wasn’t about to entertain her and let her keep the manipulation and control she had over me in our relationship. she wants to keep me around as an option, but that’s disrespectful to myself!
@litedestroya oh than you can have a right to do that if she sees you as an option but for me if she didnt see you as an option i would say go celebrate her birthday cuz at the end of the day we are a human