My ex’s birthday is coming up.After everything he did, would you wish him a happy birthday or just leave it alone? I genuinely don’t know what’s the right thing to do.
Last updated on:2026-09-09T19:45:24+05:30
Should i wish my ex a happy birthday after the breakup?
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i've sent the birthday text before, and spent the entire day staring at my phone waiting for a reply. if you're already wondering whether you should, i'd probably leave it alone and protect your peace this time.
thankyou
if you knew for sure he wouldn't reply or acknowledge the message, would you still want to wish him happy birthday?
I guess so but I'm thinking I shouldn't
my ex's birthday felt like this huge test of whether i was a good person, when really i was just scared he'd think i didn't care anymore. i eventually left it alone, and honestly, the silence gave me more peace than that little “happy birthday” ever could.
Sometimes we want to wish happy birthday because that's an excuse for us to break no contact and see if there is still something there. I'd suggest not saying it. You care and I get it but also saying happy birthday especially after he cheated only disrespects yourself and teaches him that what he did is acceptable because you will always still be available for him on the side.
how did you guys break up
he cheated 😭 there’s a lot more to it but yeah, that was basically the final straw
@ByteChill109 cheating is not unforgiveable hmm would he celebrate yours
@ByteChill109 I was going to say that if you truly want to do it do it because if not you are going to regret it but if the rain is that he cheated... I don't think it's a good idea, he doesn't deserve your appreciation
@Wanda04 yeahh i agree with you dont do it
dear be gentle to yourself.. ask yourself would if wishing him happy birthday make you feel good or it will hurt you more.. i learnt it the hard way to love myself and to be gentle to myself.. at the end of it all it is your wellbeing.. and what you deserve.. you will need you so tc of yourself..❤️🩹 sending hugs
honestly this is what I’ve been thinking about 😭 I’m just scared I’ll regret not wishing him, but I also don’t want to do something that’ll hurt me