Nine months ago I started dating an attractive coworker who pursued me first. She was dealing with major life issues—including house arrest and opioid addiction recovery. I fell deeply in love tried to "save" her helped her with bills and drove her to counseling.
Over our relationship she broke up with me twice due to her own emotional unavailability and fear of getting hurt. The first time she asked me back a few days later. The second time after getting injured at work she ended things and completely ghosted me for two months. While I was brokenhearted I eventually saw her partying on social media and decided to focus on moving on.
Recently I started casually chatting with a girl on Snapchat to distract myself not knowing she was my ex's friend. My ex suddenly surfaced to text me "I hope you have a good life" and blocked me everywhere—framing me as a betrayer.
I was completely single faithful throughout our whole relationship (even sharing my location and passwords while she kept questionable boundaries with exes/friends) and had no idea who the new girl was. Did I do anything wrong by trying to move on after being ghosted for two months?
Last updated on:2026-10-01T05:56:11+05:30
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getting left in the middle of someone else’s chaos and then somehow feeling guilty when i finally started talking to someone new. being ghosted for two months hurt like hell, and i remember how confusing it felt when my ex came back acting like i had done something wrong for trying to breathe again.
if we were actually broken up and i’d been left alone, i couldn’t keep living like i was still responsible for protecting their feelings, especially after i’d already given so much of myself.
nah you didn’t do anything wrong. some people just want to place the blame on us so they dont have to feel bad for their shitty behavior
you genuinely didn’t know who this girl was. do you think the guilt is coming more from what your ex said, or from still feeling responsible for her even after she walked away?