Is this just a situationship? confused about my feelings

so, i've been in a situationship with this guy for about 9 months, altho honestly im not even sure if he sees it as a "situationship" we talk every day and treat each other like a couple, but we've never really put a label on what we are.

when we were only about a month into whatever we had, he suddenly left me. he told me he had met another girl, but later i found out that the real reason was that he still had feelings for his ex. he knew that if i thought another girl was involved, i would choose to leave, so i feel like he used that as a way to push me away without having to tell me the real reason. he actually left me 3 times for the same reason because he still loved his ex. eventually, when we decided to fix things again, we both agreed to stay friends because neither of us could completely let go of each other. so technically, we're decided to stay friends but sometimes he still acts like the person i first met... the guy who used to tell me that he loved me as more than just a friend.

what confuses me is that he can't openly admit or acknowledge that there's something going on between us especially around people who know both of us. he even unfriended me and hid me from his dump account (im the only person he added there). i don't really understand why he gets so defensive about it when according to him, we're just friends. and another thing i really don't understand about him is that he says he can't pursue me because he doesn't like me the way he used to. but at the same time, he clearly gets jealous. whenever he sees another guy talking to me, he gets upset or mad and then he always says he's just a jealous friend as an excuse.

we stopped talking for almost a month and during that time i honestly thought he was going to forget about my birthday. he remembered and greeted me and that was actually all i wanted. i was really happy that he still remembered. but on the same day, he also told me that he's now focusing on another girl he met. i didn't even know he was talking to someone because while we weren't talking, most of his reposts were about a girl who supposedly didn't care about him anymore. i honestly thought those post were about me because i had left him on seen and about a week before my birthday, i reposted something along the lines of "i don't care about u anymore" what makes it even more confusing is that his repost seemed connected to mine. he was reposting things about imagining a life with someone who had made it clear that she didn't care about him anymore and he reposted that on the exact same day i posted mine. then literally a week later, it was my birthday. i told him i had been waiting for him to message me because i missed him so much and then he told me he was already talking to someone else and wanted to focus on her haha. what really messed with my mind was seeing his repost suddenly change into all these things about love, like he was already falling for someone when just the week before, his repost were about missing someone who supposedly didn't care about him anymore.

so honestly, im just really confused about what i am to him. he says we're friends and says he doesn't like me the way he used to, but his actions sometimes feel completely different. and after everything that happened between us for the past 9 months, it's hard for me to understand how he can suddenly shift his attention to someone else while still acting jealous one week ago. he's so confusing and shi since then so i decided to delete all of my account

Last updated on:2026-10-01T20:27:11+05:30