He texted me yesterday to ask when he can pick up his things from the flat that was supposed to be ours (but it's my dad's property). I told him that the apartment code has been changed and that he can pick up his things when my dad is there, but he doesn’t want that. He said he only wants to get his things when neither of us is there and basically dismissed what i said completely.
He said he knows what belongs to him and don't need my dad as supervisor. I honestly don’t know how to handle this because I don’t feel comfortable giving him completely unsupervised access to the apartment, especially after everything that happened. I have no idea what to tell him.
Last updated on:2026-10-08T01:58:11+05:30
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my ex pulled the exact same move when he wanted his stuff back and tried to dictate all the rules after breaking my heart. he wants to avoid your dad because he knows he messed up and doesn't want to face accountability, but you DO NOT owe him convenience or comfort right now
stand your ground and keep your dad or a friend there when he comes over, no matter how much he complains. your safety and peace of mind in your own home come first, and if he really just wants his stuff, he can grab it with an adult present.
is there a chance you could pack his belongings into boxes yourself and leave them at the front door or with a friend so he doesn't even have to step foot inside?
listen you stand your ground he can come fetch his things on your terms
dont let him play this game
he can fetch his things when your dad is there not because there is a fight about to happen its your home your space
baby give yourself some love and stand on the foundation you have built be strong