A few weeks ago, when I was drunk, I downloaded Hinge because I needed to remind myself that there are other people out there. I wasn't really looking for anything or expecting to meet anyone, but then I matched with a guy who is very much my type.
We've been texting for a few days, and it's been pretty friendly so far. Today he asked if I wanted to meet up because he's not a big texter and prefers getting to know people in person. I said yes because honestly why not?
We exchanged Instagrams, and I found out that a friend of mine from high school went to school with him prior, so at least I know he's a real person and not just a random attractive man from the internet. 💀 And he is very attractive. I'm actually excited, which I wasn't expecting so soon.
The only thing is that it's been about a month since my breakup. I know my ex had already started emotionally detaching before we officially ended things, and I was feeling that distance too, but it still is pretty recent. (even tho it already feels like 3 months)
Part of me is excited to meet someone new and see what happens. Another part of me is wondering if it's too soon and ppl will judge me for it. I don't want to use anyone as a distraction or rush into anything, but I also don't want to avoid a potentially good experience just because my breakup was recent.
I also don't even know if this is a date, exactly. We haven't really called it that, and I don't know if we'll even have chemistry in person. I just figured it might be worth meeting up and seeing how it feels.
So, what do you think? Is one month after a breakup too soon to start meeting new people? Would you go and see how it goes, or give yourself more time? Or is this even a date, what do you think?
I'm excited, but also a little unsure, and I could use some opinions. Also, why is he so hot ? literally I'm not joking..
Last updated on:2026-10-15T22:47:30+05:30
Comments (5)
girl, the fact that you're actually EXCITED about someone new after a breakup made me smile 😭 my first hinge match after my ex had me feeling guilty for even finding someone attractive, like i was doing something wrong by being single.
lmaoo i love how everyone thinks I'm a girl 😭 But i feel you! I felt the guilt when I was downloading it first too even tho i was drunk. But damn if you saw that men you wouldn't feel a single bit of guilt either trust me.
i'd go and see how it feels. i started meeting people before i felt completely over my ex, and taking things slowly helped me figure out what i actually wanted. you don't have to turn one coffee into a whole new relationship.
are you more worried that you're not ready for someone new, or that other people will judge you for moving on “too soon”?
it's a mix of both i think but more the judging part