Hey, today a mutual friend came to visit me. We talked, and naturally the conversation turned to him, and I started talking about certain things. I think I said too much, but on the other hand, I feel good about getting it all out. Then, two days ago, I was talking to a guy. I knew him before he was with me, but when we got together, I stopped talking to him. He's just a friend; we haven't done anything together. He's just attracted to me. And today we talked again, just casually. And I feel guilty even though I'm single, and I know perfectly well that he's been seeing a lot of girls lately. But a simple conversation makes me feel guilty, because I was so faithful and loyal for five years that it's still on my mind.
Last updated on:2026-03-03T21:00:23+05:30
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do you think the guilt is about this friend, or is it about the version of you who was “the loyal girlfriend” for so long and doesn’t know who she is without that role?
I think it stems from the faithful girlfriend who got a little lost without the relationship.
after my relationship ended i felt guilty for even laughing at another guy’s joke, like i was cheating on someone who wasn’t even mine anymore. that loyal muscle doesn’t just switch off overnight.
You're absolutely right. For us women, it takes a very long time.