The useless phone call that set me back after 4 months

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he wrote to me that he wanted to talk on the phone and catch up.
what a useless conversation that was. now I'm set back again after 4 months.

Last updated on:2026-03-08T04:24:43+05:30

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letitgo_user
letitgo_user a mth ago

Anytime

checkIN
checkIN a mth ago

gah i’m curious though, what did he even want to talk about after four months? was it real closure stuff or just one of those vague “how have you been” calls?

natelaine
natelaine a mth ago

it was literally "how am I doing" and talking about what's new with both of us...
I asked him why he reached out and he said "I still think about you and care for you so I wanted to know how you're doing".
we already had the closure talk in November...

hiddenpain
hiddenpain a mth ago

honestly i had to stop answering those calls. every time i picked up, i paid for it emotionally for days after.

spicyyy
spicyyy a mth ago

my ex did the same thing after a few months, said he “just wanted to catch up.” i hung up feeling like all the healing i did just cracked open again. it really messes with your head.

letitgo_user
letitgo_user a mth ago

I hear how frustrating this is, but please try not to be so hard on yourself. Resetting a clock doesn't mean you’ve failed or lost the incredible progress you’ve made over the last four months.
​In a way, this conversation was actually a brave step. If you hadn't picked up, there might always be a small part of you wondering 'what if?' Now you know for sure. You’ve gathered the final bit of evidence that moving forward is the right choice for your peace. You’re learning so much through this—including how to 'break up on purpose'—and this moment is just a small detour, not a dead end. Be as kind to yourself today as you would be to a best friend. I've started reading a book called break up on purpose by John Kim. I have found it helpful.

natelaine
natelaine a mth ago

thank you xxo