i don’t even know how to say this properly… i feel so hurt and disappointed. i really thought what we had was real, like it went both ways not just something i made up in my head. but now it’s clear he just liked the attention he liked being wanted, not actually being close to me.
he let it keep going because it felt good for him while i kept getting more attached. he gave me just enough to believe in it even encouraged it just to make sure i was still there liking him.
and now i’m left here feeling stupid for believing it all. i know he handled this badly but somehow i still blame myself the most.
Last updated on:2026-05-07T08:44:16+05:30
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sending you love and healing 🤍
I had something similar too. its extremely painful and soooo embarrassing for me
the best we can do is know that when it’s right, it will never leave us confused and hurt. you’re not stupid, what you felt was real. know that you’re a lover with intention and that some people aren’t. some people chase relationships out of ego or boredom. I’m working on loving myself but I do know this about me, what I give is real. give yourself some time and grace!
he ever showed real effort to know you, or was it mostly him enjoying how you made him feel
it's sad to see that so many people are facing this problem.
it really sucks but i had to stop putting all the blame on myself, because someone choosing to keep you hooked for attention is on THEM
Unfortunately that’s the story of most of us here.
You loved fully, gave it your all. He couldn’t match your love or meet you there. That’s his fault. Not yours.
Chin up, queen. You got this. You’ll be okay soon ♥️
sad.
I've been there...I went through all the self blame until I started to realise that he didn't have the emotional maturity or stability to end things properly. Sometimes all people want is validation, and when they stop getting that from someone and you start asking questions about the future, they walk away. It's important for you to know that it is NOT your fault, you are not responsible for someone else not being capable or willing to have a proper relationship with you. You deserve better. ❤️
keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know youre not alone friend ❤️
i’ve been the person who kept getting fed just enough to stay, thinking it meant something real. when it finally clicked that he just liked being wanted, i felt so played and so dumb for missing it
I'm sorry you had to endure that.. but sometimes they make you stay because you make them feel better about themselves
Felt this! Unfortunately people who do this to others are cruel and heartless.