During a night out, i bumped into someone I knew from way before. He told me I looked really good. It was the night I bumped into my ex, the first time we saw each other since the breakup. I concentrated on just having a good night.
So the old friend messaged me and said we should catch up for coffee or drinks. I agreed as long as it was coffee.
I knew I didn't want to start anything romantically, but I wanted to practice what I had learnt from my breakup. Be vulnerable, be open, maintain boundaries and be open with communication.
We had a really nice chat. Caught up on everything. He spoke about his divorce and his father passing. I spoke about my ex (he knew I was going through a breakup) and how I overcame chronic illness.
SO TELL ME WHY I CRIED THE ENTIRE WAY HOME. It made me miss my ex so much more. Talking about him solidified why we weren't a good fit. I dont want to miss him anymore. Im sick of him being in my thoughts. He doesn't think about me, so why should I think about him
Last updated on:2026-05-22T10:52:49+05:30
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hi
going on a perfectly nice date after my breakup and crying in the parking lot after because it made me realize how much space my ex still took up in me.
i don’t think you cried because you want your ex back. i think hearing yourself speak openly about everything made it REAL real.
do you think part of the pain is that your ex was tied to such a huge chapter of your life, like your illness and recovery, and now your brain still connects comfort and survival to him?
its interesting you say that, when I first met my ex, I was in the beginning stages of my recovery. For 3 years beforehand, I was bedridden. It was almost like he breathed fresh air back into my life. Now that he is gone, there's a huge gap in my life, trying to rediscover how I used my time before I was ill. I miss him and his comfort, but I know the only way is forward....even if its without him. It still hurts so much