We broke up 1 week ago , it was all cause of me , to sum it up , I let all my past trauma and insecurities burn her out , I lied about something , and kept it from her because I thought that it would be better, but made it worse. That's what mostly broke everything, and no I didn't cheat , but lying is still lying , especially for months.
I can't look at the past and keep saying I wish I didn't do that, cuz that won't tix anything, only thing I can fix right now is myself.
About no contact , after we broke up , she mentioned staying friends , cuz we didn't cheat on eachother , she said that it doesn't mean we won't be together again ,she said she just doesn't feel good with me anymore , and I truly understand her.
She told me to work on myself to become to best version , of me.
After all that , I didn't say anything, one week went by ,and I would lie to myself if I'd say I don't miss her , and I texted her two days ago , just to check on her, like I just asked how her week went and obviously she replied dry , and asked about me , and I told her , and she still seemed dry , I saw that the conversation wasn't going well and I ended it , I told her to take care of herself and she left me on delivered.
So technically I restarted it, we start again.
I'm so sorry for being like this, she showed me what true love is in months, when no one else could in years. I let past traumas affect what I had. I miss you, my baby ,and I'm sorry I wasn't the peace you needed all this time.
Don't let overthinking ruin your happiness, sometimes it can be right , but you have to learn to reepectyourself and your partner , some moments just have to stay on your mind and , and you really need to ask yourself " Do I have proof? , or am I just being insecure?" , not burn out your partner like I did.
It is true that I do miss her , and all I want right now is her to be by my side again, and to treat her right , but I want her to be happy as well ,doesn't if we're apart.
I don't know if there is any chance that , she will text me one day and things will get better. All I can do right now is look forward. What do you think?
Last updated on:2026-05-18T05:38:12+05:30
Comments (5)
the fact that you’re owning your part instead of blaming her says a lot.
i was the one who let my insecurities ruin something good too. i kept looking for danger where there wasn’t any and by the time i realized what i was doing, my ex was exhausted. that guilt sits heavy for a while
when you say she was burnt out, did she try bringing these issues up before the breakup happened? sometimes that tells you a lot about whether trust can slowly come back later.
yes, she did before , and she reassured me so many times , yet I still managed to burn her out. And the lie , we discussed on that , but it is a topic that really managed to ruin her trust for good , she wasn't the same ever since that lie. She tried her hardest, I've seen it, but she couldn't. All people have limits and I understand why she made this decision.
Never lie in a relationship. No matter how big or small. Relationships are built on vulnerability, trust and open communication. Lying goes against all of that and feels like a betrayal. I hope you guys can move forward. She will have to learn to trust you again