He broke up with me on April 3rd just like that . no explanation he just said he is dealing with his own issues and can't be in a relationship while he is dealing with them I asked him to let me be there for him but he said he can't drag me into it and for a while there I felt as if my whole world had been ripped apart . it was a three years 8 months relationship. he had promised me forever. so did I . I was there to stay through everything with him. I would rather rebuild it with him a gazillion times than start over with someone else but he gave up on us. the part that hurt the most was hearing him talk shit to me because how do I go from being your princess to being treated like trash he did it because I kept on calling him asking why he left I kept on sending like 100 manual paragraphs asking him to come back but he said I'm too stressful blocked me everywhere he eventually unblocked I cried for more than one month I could eat couldn't sleep didn't feel like doing anything I kept on begging and begging and begging and apologized even though I didn't do anything I just wanted him back but on Friday I finally decided to choose myself not because I dont love him anymore but because I can't keep on doing that to myself he told me he broke up because he feels like we are wasting each other's time and neither of us is gaining anything I'm 21 he's 20 he said he's just a young man trying to figure out his life well I haven't figured mine out yet but I still wanted him there it sucks that he couldn't fight for us ever since he broke up he's just been mean to me because I couldn't leave him alone I tried chat I tried and it was so harddd to let him go because I didn't even know why he left šššso I've not talked to him since Monday 12pm I do feel the need to reach out but I can't . he doesnt want to be with me . he made it clear and to be honest it feels lighter my chest isn't tight anymore I don't feel like a potato is stuck on my throat anymore i no longer cry about it I've finally accepted it for what it is and if hes the one and is meant to come back he will when the time is right but I miss him like mad and I still love him but I have to let go
Last updated on:2026-05-22T04:02:51+05:30
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that exact feeling of begging someone to stay while they got colder and colder toward me. i sent paragraphs too, cried until i physically felt sick, kept thinking if i just explained myself better theyād come back. the part where your chest finally starts feeling lighter, thatās REAL even when you still love them.
yes letting go is actually an act of love too
proud of you for stopping yourself from reaching out. i know that urge is brutal.
what made this so hard was never really getting a clear answer from him? because sometimes the confusion keeps us attached even longer than the breakup itself.
Hey girl, Three years and eight months is a really long time. But look at it from the bright side (I know right now you canāt yet but it will come). You surely made amazing memories together, but youāre still so young! Girl, 21! You have a life ahead of you. This breakup is absolutely not the end. And unfortunately, most people do not end up with their first love. If he really lost feelings for you, isnāt willing to work on the relationship or be in it anymore, then heās right. It is a waste of time. Being led on for years by someone who isnāt in it with their heart anymore is even more painful and you would eventually resent him. Even if healing from this takes a yearā¦ girl, one year out of your life is nothing. Go through it. Accept the pain. Itās hard, but you will come out much stronger on the other side. And exploring yourself after a breakup can be a lot of fun. Good luck and it will absolutely get better ā¤ļøāš©¹
I was in the same situation. I promise you it will get better, but you have to let him go and choose yourself, because if he doesn't choose you, he doesn't deserve you. And even though it might seem like the end of the world right now, I promise you it isn't. I recommend starting therapy; it helps a lot! Also, cry, scream, sleep, let it all out, but get up the next day and move on with your life. You can do it.
yes ,indeed it is a hard time for u.But once this is over, it will be so liberating that u thank God for taking him.away from ur life
It's hard but let him be