avoidant discard (i think). i know i should stop noticing but of course i always notice the reels he likes since we are still friends on instagram. today he liked one that said “when it’s a healthy breakup but they say i love you one last time” a super like grieving, sad video. the other he liked was this video that said “forgiveness does not require reconciliation, i can release the anger and wish you well and still lock that door forever”. he left after a text fight where i said something pretty rude, but also not like unforgivable. he never told me it was over the fight.
i guess im just confused where he stands. at first it was “im not ready” or “long distance is hard”. but why does he still follow me on everything and keep me added if he’s suddenly writing this narrative that he’s the victim and i did this awful thing that he could forgive but never let me back in???
i’m not looking for “stop checking his socials” i know, and im working on jt. i really am just trying to understand what’s going on for him. is he confused? is he suddenly deciding it was the fight? is he really gone forever? does he miss me? why does he keep me followed and everything if he’s talking about “forcing but cutting off access” i don’t understand.
Last updated on:2026-05-25T06:16:11+05:30
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when you look past the reels and reposts, has he actually done anything directly that made you feel wanted or emotionally safe since the breakup?
Call him and ask him all the above mentioned questions.Decide after ur communication..If it is not as per ur assumption , then please remove him from all ur social media.
my ex used to repost breakup stuff that sounded EXACTLY like he was secretly talking to me and i’d spend hours trying to decode every little thing.
did he ever end up reaching out?