wow I never thought I would make it here. Thanks for letting me do these daily check ins. without them I don't think I would have made it.
The sadness has definitely set in and the realisation that this really is over. I ask myself if he rang today and said he wanted to make things work what I would say, and I think I am finally at the point where I honestly couldn't put myself through this again. ( he is a fearful avoidant, and this is the 4th time going through this). I have been so hurt by him, the though of going back to that pattern makes me physically ill.
I do keep wondering what he is doing, is he missing me, how is he feeling? Its these questions that do make me want to reach out. 7 days feels like a lifetime when we spoke several times a day. ugh.
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7 days felt impossible for me too
such good work!!
asking myself that same "what if she came back today?" question, and the first time my answer became "i can't do this again," i cried because i knew it was really over.
I know that feeling. That feeling can also be slightly freeing. Acceptance is the biggest hurdle.
when you picture reaching out, is it because you believe he'd be different this time, or because you just miss having him in your everyday life?
A little bit of both.
we got this. im in the same boat. im 3 days no contact. he moved out Saturday. usually I call and text him by now. I miss him so much. but I know I can't go back. I just cant do this again. this is the 100th breakup over the last 8 years and nothing has changed. we have to let go!
That sounds really tough. I found day 3 the hardest and kept racing out. I hope you are surrounding yourself with good people and taking care of yourself.
I feel the same thing at time, but I look at myself and think if I go back then all its gonna do is put me in a cycle of hurt. I am already hurt right now, then why hurt myself even more if I go back. Sometimes you have to just let people go. People come and people go. Hopefully the next person that comes in your life may be a blessing to you. That they may appreiacte you for who you are and respect you, and be honest with you, and care for you. Wish you nothing but healing ❤️🫂
Thankyou for your beautiful kind words. same to you. 🫶
You are doing incredible work.. keep it up and keep counting days of no contact. The longer it's been, the more clarity you will have.
Thankyou. I sure hope so.