Why i'm done giving him chances after day 9

This morning I woke up angry. angry at him, angry at myself for giving him so many chances. Everytime he came back he would do some work on himself and tell me I was worth fighting for. Things would be amazing for a few months and then the second he got triggered or stressed in life he would break up with me.
This last time he broke up with me in a text on the anniversary of my best friend's passing. he knew it was already a difficult day for me. This is why I can't do this again with him.
These past few weeks I haven't been taking care of myself, eating bad, not exercising properly. Its time to start focussing on my health again. I had worked really hard to get into shape and lose a bit of weight and its all come undone which is also making me feel really shit about myself.
The last 24 hours haven't been easy. But i didn't reach out and that's a win!

Last updated on:2026-07-17T23:00:11+05:30

Comments (13)

1064love
1064love a mth ago

when i stopped making my whole day about whether they'd text, i started with one decent meal and one walk, and somehow that made getting through the next day a bit easier.

Havingablast
Havingablast a mth ago

Its been a rollercoaster of a day for us both. Take things one day at a time. I haven't gone to the gym in a few weeks aswell so my nervous system settles down. We deserve a partner who is willing to reciprocate everything we pour into a relationship. Sending virtual hugs your way 🫂

FrostJet725
FrostJet725 a mth ago

Right back at ya 🫶

brokefeather
brokefeather a mth ago

that breakup text on the anniversary of your best friend's passing is hard to read. 😞 has this been the longest you've gone without reaching out to him since everything started?

FrostJet725
FrostJet725 a mth ago

yes. I kept breaking NC every 3 days. But everytime I think about him sending that text specifically on that day, it gives me the push i need to be stronger. its been 4 weeks since that text... and this is the longest I've gone NC.

brokenking
brokenking a mth ago

my ex kept coming back with promises too, and every time i believed THIS time would be different. the anger hit me way later, and honestly it was the first feeling that finally pushed me forward.

FrostJet725
FrostJet725 a mth ago

love this. can't wait to get to this point.

letitgo_user
letitgo_user a mth ago

great job getting through day 9! you are worth fighting for - fight for yourself through this tough time because you deserve a love that doesn’t feel like a rollercoaster. and I think that love can start with you, show yourself kindness and grace - we are human and are bound to make mistakes

FrostJet725
FrostJet725 a mth ago

that's a great way of thinking about it. i will fight for myself . 🥰

cheekz
cheekz a mth ago

im so proud of you! be kinder to yourself

FrostJet725
FrostJet725 a mth ago

thankyou 🫶

jakesworld55
jakesworld55 a mth ago

good for you and I know how hard that must be but that is a boy pretending to be a man no should break up with you on and off just because of stress if anything a healthy couple will lean on eachother when they are stressed and help pull eachother up, keep up the work and remember there is a whole community behind you

FrostJet725
FrostJet725 a mth ago

Thankyou. I just came back to read your kind message again. It really helped me today.