I posted a few days ago about how I had gift cards scheduled to be delivered via email for my ex’s birthday that’s on tuesday. i decided to cancel them. I feel at peace about it because i’ve been so anxious worried about how he will react and i didn’t want to break no contact. I do love him and miss him but I know he is not good for me and treats me poorly. now to make it through not reaching out on his birthday and dealing with guilt….
Last updated on:2026-07-20T08:57:39+05:30
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you are so much stronger than me i wouldve made this the excuse to reach out but im so happy for you 💛
the birthday guilt is so real
his made me smile a little because it sounds like you already know what you need. 💛 what's making the birthday feel so heavy, is it guilt because you still love him, or are you worried he'll think you never cared?
I think I would rather deal with the guilt of not reaching out versus the waiting and being on edge of if he would say something in regards to the gift and also how bad it is for my body to talk to him. and honestly the guilt is both. I really don’t want him to think I forgot or don’t think about him
i'm really proud of you for canceling them. i mailed my ex a birthday gift once and spent DAYS waiting for a reply that never came
thank you… I think it was the right thing. i’m sorry to hear that, that’s so tough. I think I would be on edge waiting for a message and I don’t really want to put myself through that because i’m already having a really hard time. i’ll probably post the day of because I think that day is going to be a tough one for me
I think canceling them was a great decision if it relieved your anxiety. please try to not feel guilty about doing/not doing something to protect your own heart.
i’m going to try my best, thank you 🫶🏻
im hurting
i’m so sorry to hear that :(
im proud of you. He doesnt deserve you. I think you should treat yourself instead for a way to celebrate his birthday without breaking no contact
that’s honestly a great idea, thank you so so much 🥹