update: i’ve posted about this a few times- my ex’s birthday is tomorrow. I had originally gotten him e-gift cards to be delivered to him via email. i decided to cancel it because i was so anxious and didn’t want to break no contact. I was so worried about tomorrow and fighting the urge to text him but I noticed yesterday he blocked me on everything including my phone number (I only know because his focus status isn’t showing so i’m assuming). i’m guessing he is making sure I don’t have a way to reach out and he doesn’t want to hear from me so i’m feeling even better about my decision. we shall see how tomorrow goes
Last updated on:2026-07-22T05:24:57+05:30
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I’m so proud of you for deciding not to send them! It helps you to take some of your power back because you made that choice by yourself even before he blocked you. Hold on to that, it’s a victory!
yes I agree, thank you so much! him blocking me definitely would have affected that and i’m proud of myself and can honestly say I know it was the right thing for me
i know how hard that decision is. my ex blocked me right before a date i was scared of too, and weirdly it took the choice out of my hands. it still hurt, but i stopped spending the whole day fighting myself
it does hurt and is so confusing but I agree! it feels like a burden lifted because now I can’t keep creeping on his page and just waiting for him to do it because I knew it was coming
tomorrow might still suck, i'm not gonna lie. but i think you already did the hardest part by not sending the gift. sometimes we need that door to stay shut because we'd reopen it ourselves if it didn't.
yeah I 100% agree. I was a little sad today and miss him of course but I feel okay surprisingly. even though I couldn’t tell him happy birthday I said it out loud and ate some cake so that kind of made me feel better and like I still acknowledged it just not to him
oof, i felt that part about checking the focus status. i've done the same kind of detective work 😭 do you think he blocked you because he expected you'd reach out, or has he been pulling away for a while now?
yesss it’s so bad haha. he has blocked and unblocked me numerous times so I do think he did it because he wants to prevent me from reaching out and protect himself but he admitted he has done it in the past because anger also so I’m sure he’s angry. I just think the timing is weird and i’m sure he was anticipating hearing from me
I was devastated when I first saw he blocked me on fb but now im terrified of him reaching out I dont want to loose the progress I have made i feel like I am soo close to a break through . I hope tomorrow isn't a trigger for you do you have anything planned maybe having a distraction could help ease some of the anxiousness of the day.
I feel you, keep up the good work! and luckily I had therapy today and i’ve been doing okay.
I think that is the right move. I am sure tomorrow is going to be difficult. please reach out here for support. I hope you are OK?
thank you, i’m doing better than I thought I would be!