it’s been 84 days and I’m really struggling today. I thought he was my person. in the beginning he said things like I knew you were the one for me after a few hours and we spoke on the hours for hours and hours. we became more and more distant as time went by and I felt like he grew irritated with me with time. in the end of our relationship he said that he’s scared he’ll never find anyone better than me but it’s just what he needs to accept because he feels like I’m more emotionally aware, that something is missing and that we just don’t find the same things fun. we broke up earlier once because of his avoidant tendencies and he reached out to me like every week and we tried to rekindle but it only lasted three weeks and then he broke up with me.
now it’s been 84 days no contact and I feel like my heart is still broken, my birthday passed like two weeks ago and he didn’t say anything. most of all I feel so disappointed in myself for really thinking this was my person. I don’t know what to do
Last updated on:2026-08-18T04:22:11+05:30
Comments (7)
the birthday silence would’ve hurt me too.
I’m exactly where you are minus the no contact days. no birthday wishes either. stay strong.
you look at everything that happened, do you miss him as he was, or the person you thought you two would become?
It’s really difficult waiting- kind of like being disappointed again and again
I’m really sorry about your birthday, nobody deserves that treatment.
Happy birthday and I hope, when he does come around again, you’ll be in a much better place and be able to discern his intentions better. My heart hurts for you today, you’re not alone..
I’m so sorry you’re still feeling heartbroken. you have managed to uphold NC for so long. you should be so proud of yourself for being so strong. I know it hurts so much but it would have hurt more if you were still talking as you’d be clinging to hope even more fiercely.
kya he
84 days can feel like forever when your heart is still waiting, and missing someone after this long doesn't mean you were stupid for believing he was your person