Am i healing or just hoping?

do you feel like that hope is keeping you stuck, or are you still able to live your life without waiting for them?

i learned that healing didn’t require me to stop loving them overnight. i could miss someone, hope they’d return, and still choose myself every day.

i was getting better while still secretly hoping my ex would come back, and for a while i thought that meant i was doing no contact wrong. it didn’t.

I feel like it normal to feel this way, man I feel this way also. Moving on is scary to think about because this person that was once so close to you will one day just be a stranger an the thought of that is quite scary, there hopefully there will be a day where you become so detached that you can’t even put yourself low enough to be with them again.

Yes, you are healing, even though you want him to come back you do not write to him and you are giving the best of yourself, everyone lives the grief in different ways and you live it like that, keep going.

Sometimes we go through no contact for different reasons and it's okay to feel that way. Healing is a process that does not need to be rushed so depends on how you feel besides hoping they'll come back. Heck, it's been months for me but I my heart that feeling is still there because I loved them so much and it may be difficult for your heart to come to terms with what your mind already knows that it's over.

if you shared time with someone and gained feelings, there will always be hope they'll come back, but you feeling better is what should be celebrated. another day you've made it and who knows, maybe you'll get to a day when you don't think about them hopefully coming back.

As every day passes, you are healing. That hope they will come back fades over time. How long is anyones guess. Missing them can stick with you for a long time, but missing them and knowing you are better off without them can coexist.

Yes! if you are feeling better, you are healing. it's ok to hope they come back. I think we all hope - especially if it was their choice to end relationship, not yours. this hope goes away slowly. and one day you realize that you don't want them back anymore. it happened to me after each of my relationship. many times they did contact me after - sometimes months later, sometimes years later. but each time I didn't want them back anymore.

this is exactly how I feel right now. I feel like there are still feeling there for them because think about it. All those moments you had together all those memories you think they didn’t enjoy and feel those too. Peoples feeling can’t change with a flip of a switch. This is just there I WON IM FREE IDGAF stage trust me they will come back they have feeling too trust me