i regret for giving him what he wanted when he expressed his feelings out of emotional impulse - reassurance. i thought i did the right thing by showing that i care but that backfired. once he got what he wanted, he pulled away again. i feel like he doesn’t want to let go of me but doesn’t want to commit either because he keeps doing the push-pull thing. it’s really messing with my head. part of me wants to let go but part of me is clinging on to hope that he’ll come back again
Last updated on:2025-10-27T03:06:02+05:30
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that kind of back-and-forth will drain you. i started focusing on what i needed instead of trying to match his confusion. when someone’s unsure, sometimes the only way to protect your peace is to stop dancing to their rhythm.
mine used to do the same — say he missed me, want reassurance, then go cold again once i gave it. that push-pull messed with my head so bad. it’s exhausting feeling like love’s a game of who cares less
exactly. at this point, it’s a game to see who cares more. i hope you got away!
I'm so sorry ti hear that, you deserve someone that truly chooses you.
It looks like you're still attached to him. I know how hard it is to be in this kind of situation, specially when you experienced something valuable with him.
As someone who went through a similar situation, I can tell you, please stay away from him, respect yourself and your limits. Tell him what you want and if he doesn't commit stay away from him.
In my experience, I stayed in this situation, I wanted to stay close to him, even when I was conscious about the fact that I was being used. Eventually, I went through a lot of pain, we ended in bad terms, now I feel sick of him for using me. Please don't let your situation go this far.
pd: english is not my first language so, I apologize in advance for anything that could result hard to understand :c
i’m sorry that you went through the same thing. these people just like to waste our time by sticking around but not fully saying what they want. i didn’t care about breaking no contact and just straight up told him that i need to set boundaries. he hasn’t responded.
how did you overcome it? and how long did it take for you to move on?
ps: your english is great, no worries!
that’s what my ex has been doing to me, I hoped for the same thing. then he turned so volatile and hateful to the point where our friends were begging me to block him. I did even though I still love him, sometimes people don’t deserve that side of you hon. even if it hurts you have to love yourself enough to know when to let go, so you can keep your mental well being stable.
you’re right. it’s like they can’t see it no matter how we try to show that we care about them. i hope you’re doing ok and know that you’re much more worth than he’s treating you
@Shiro so are you babes, we’re in this boat together 🖤 idk if this app lets you do like personal little dm things but if it does and you just need someone to listen im right here🖤🖤
@ZippyTap208 i’m afraid you have to pay for it. do you want to add each other on some platform? i’d be happy to lend an ear too☺️
@Shiro I can totally give you my snap:)