So I thought this morning he might stop completely ghosting me but no he blocks me on just snap and nothing else and my "friend" tells me that it's for the best.
I was meant to be meeting up with some of our mutual friends so I did that, he goes to the same area but chose to go to a friend's house and completely avoid me until I left and only then he went out to where I had been. I felt like our "friends" were being really weird with me the whole time almost like they didn't want me to be there and I felt like i didnt fit in at all because I was just sat there upset and on my own the whole time basically. I eventually left without saying anything to go and look for him because he was still out and walked around an hour to where he was just for him to turn his location off and start running away with his friends basically making me follow them for an hour when I only wanted to talk and that was it. His friends have now all blocked me on snap and kicked me from their gc and life360. Was any of this valid from me, him, or his friends? Who was in the wrong? Could ot get any worse? Have I limited all possibilities of him coming back?
Last updated on:2026-04-08T23:07:03+05:30
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you think you were looking for closure from him, or were you hoping he’d show he still cared if you found him
him running away and letting his friends shut you out like that is cruel.
chasing someone who kept dodging me like i was nothing. i remember walking around for hours just wanting ONE conversation and feeling so stupid after. that kind of rejection sticks deep
I hear how much you are hurting right now, and I want you to know that your feelings of confusion and isolation are completely valid. It is exhausting to fight for a conversation that the other person isn't ready to have, and feeling "weirdness" from a group you thought was your support system is a heavy burden to carry.
Understanding the Silence
It sounds like your ex is trying to create distance in the only way he knows how—by closing off communication. While it feels like he is "running away," it is often a sign that he isn't emotionally capable of giving you the conversation or the closure you deserve right now. When someone avoids you or blocks you, they are effectively saying they cannot meet your needs. As hard as it is to hear, it may be time to stop the pursuit and choose your own peace over his answers.
The Reality of Mutual Friends
One of the hardest parts of a breakup is realizing that mutual friends sometimes choose sides. It’s deeply unfair, but their behavior says more about their inability to handle conflict than it does about your worth. Instead of trying to fit back into a group that made you feel invisible, try to lean on the people who don't make you wonder if you’re wanted—your own loyal friends and your family who see you for who you truly are.
Finding Your Own Closure
Sometimes, the closure we need isn’t a conversation with our ex; it’s the realization that their silence is the answer. I’ve personally felt the sting of a blindsided breakup, and I know how tempting it is to keep searching for "why" until your feet are tired. But you can find closure within yourself by deciding that you are worth more than a one-sided chase.
Next Steps for Healing
The Power of No Contact: I highly encourage you to do some research on "No Contact" right here in the app. It isn't about "winning" the breakup; it’s about giving your brain and heart the space to heal without the constant stress of checking locations or social media.
Speak with a Pro: There are some incredible breakup coaches available on this app. Sometimes talking to someone objective can help you unpack these feelings without the judgment of a social circle.
You have a big heart, and right now, that heart needs to be protected. Focus on your own wellness, your own routine, and the people who would never let you sit alone and upset. You are going to get through this.