30 days into no contact.
It gets easier, I still think about him all the time (but I suppose that's how it is without closure...). Now I feel more like myself.
I've been looking into attachment theory, even if it's irrelevant here, it's a good motivator/explanation for his behaviour. I think I'll stick to no contact for at least another couple of weeks.
Thank you, the support everyone brings here has been incredibly helpful for understanding and healing.
Last updated on:2026-05-07T16:12:42+05:30
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you are so strongđź©· i wish i would be this strong
It gets easier!! I set myself a goal to reach 30 days, so I've felt a little preoccupied now I'm here, hoping he'll reach out. Actually caught myself waking up early to check my phone.. it's been weeks since the last time!
But I feel good, I feel stable, and I'm sure you'll feel much better with time.
i think you’re doing the right thing sticking with no contact a bit longer, that’s what helped me too. every extra week gave me more clarity and less urge to reach out, even without closure.
Thank you, it's been tough to stay consistent, but I've gotten this far so I'm sure I can stick to it.
I haven't blocked him or anything since I'm hoping he'll reach out (delusional I realise lol), so the temptation is always there. But I think the added pressure/difficulty has helped me to get over it in a way? I'm still attached, but not feeling anxious/insane about it anymore!
you’re still hoping he’ll come back, or is it more just missing what you had?
that weird stage where you still think about them constantly but you can finally breathe again a little. i remember hitting around a month of no contact and feeling like “oh… i’m still me” for the first time in a while
No contact isn’t about forgetting them. It’s about choosing not to hurt yourself anymore. Short-term relief is checking.
Long-term healing is letting go. I choose healing.