my ex and I broke up three weeks ago and i feel like i’m right back in the same place i was last year.
last year i went through a brutal breakup after a four-year relationship ended. it took me to some really dark places. i lost around 40 pounds and struggled to feel like myself again.
with this relationship there were problems from the start. deep down i knew where things were probably heading but somehow we made it almost 11 months. we broke up a few times before sometimes for weeks but this time feels different. it feels final. she’s already started seeing someone else and i don’t know how to handle it.
it’s bringing back the exact same pain i felt when my previous ex moved on and i feel like i’m reliving everything all over again. i can’t sleep i’m barely eating i’ve stopped going to the gym and i hate feeling like i’m losing myself again.
i have work soon and i haven’t slept at all. i don’t know how to go through this another time. honestly i don’t even want to be in another relationship ever again.
Last updated on:2026-07-22T04:20:45+05:30
Comments (7)
how long did you wait between the two relationships? could it be unresolved issues from the past relationship that you are feeling?
i went through two breakups close together too, and the second one ripped open everything i thought i'd already survived. i remember thinking, "how am i back HERE again?"
seeing she's with someone new hit you the hardest, or did this relationship already feel like it was slipping away before the breakup
Just believe you will be okay and this state of mind and fleeings are not permenant. Just try to make it through the day
You'll get through this even if it seems impossible butttttt listen boy this time you'll heal yourself properly fix yourself remaining single not going into rebound relationship then you'll find yourself a good partner that you deserve because you have to do the hard work before jumping into next relationships and staying for shitty person because you are already starved by previous one
This too shall pass
What do you think were the lessons you learnt about yourself in the first relationship that you applied in the second? What steps did you take to overcome the first heart break?