"What should I do? He literally told me he doesn't take our relationship seriously, yet he claims he loves me! He disappears and shows up whenever he wants, giving me zero attention. When we had a fight, he stopped calling, and whenever I tried to reach out, he ignored my calls and messages. Just when I started moving on and getting over him, he suddenly reappeared and started calling me. He's a player, toxic, and taking advantage of my feelings for him. I really don't know what to do
Last updated on:2026-08-29T04:37:24+05:30
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i feel for you because that back-and-forth can mess with your head so badly. when he comes back, do you actually feel loved and secure, or do you mostly feel relieved that he finally chose to contact you again?
Honestly, mostly just relieved, but with a lot of hesitation and fear because I know we’ll just end up fighting again
i’d honestly stop chasing him
He knows what he's doing. When he feels you're slipping away, he drags you back. All I can tell you is try and remember your worth and your standards, and keep one thing in mind "he's not up to none of it!". Stay strong.
exact push-pull mess. my ex would disappear when i needed him and come back the second i started getting okay again, and i kept mistaking his return for proof that he cared.
don’t. he likes the idea of always having you, like having a safety net. he thinks your one of his toys, he can play with everyone of his toys, but when another person tries to play with one of his, he suddenly wants to give it all his attention. don’t fall gor it and try not to talk to him, show your worth.
baby I've tried this before and I broke up with him because I told him that I love him but I'm not doing this anymore cause I date to marry.
and he respected me so much and now I love myself moree cuz I made the right choice and I'm free now 🤍
hes toxic, he loves the attention so he doesnt care how he treats you when he has it. When he doesnt have your attention, he'll play around to get it back. He lacks emotional maturity to be in a relationship
what would you tell a friend to do? Do you think that he is breadcrumbing you? You are worthy of love and respect just the way you are. I would consider looking up some books or audiobooks so you can figure out what to do. I am going to list a few books and audiobooks that have helped me. he's just not that into you. win your breakup. breakup on purpose. it's called a breakup because it's broken. watching videos by the dating coach Matthew Hussey on YouTube could be helpful. he also has a dating ai app that I have found helpful for asking questions. Try journaling how you feel or talking to a friend or family member. Trust your gut. I believe in you. I have found counseling really helpful.
honestly similar thing happened to me. i would say try to move on. im going through the same thing currently. reach out if you need