closure
so i broke no contact at day 10 and finally got closure. i had a feeling he was detaching when he stopped checking my profile and i was right. he said we can’t be together because we love and function differently. he said everything in a calm tone, not cold or distant. it was like a gentle goodbye.
it really hurts but at the same time i feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. is this the closure i was seeking? i should be happy right? why does it ache so much?
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when you say it felt like a weight lifted, what part do you think got lighter the confusion, the waiting, or just finally knowing it’s done?
i think it’s the confusion and waiting. it’s clear that he isn’t choosing me because he said he needs to grow on his own and that we can’t be together. i feel like i can move on with ease
closure doesn’t erase the love or the habit of them. it just gives you a new kind of quiet to sit with. i usually remind myself that the ache is just love leaving the body, and it fades slower than we want it to.
when my ex told me “we just love differently,” it sounded calm but it broke something in me. i remember feeling both relieved and shattered at the same time. that ache after “closure” hits harder than the actual breakup sometimes. it’s like your heart hasn’t caught up to what your mind already knows
It’s normal for it to still ache but I’m glad you feel you got the closure you need and now it is your time to fully concentrate con yourself.