Tell me, I know that people who lose their feelings often distance themselves, becoming cold and distant, but do they all become mean to their partners, like belittling them, telling them they're annoying every time they ask for affection, or simply not being there when I need them? If not, then maybe I can stop telling myself that he was the only one and that I won't find anyone better.
Last updated on:2026-04-24T17:34:04+05:30
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i don’t think everyone turns mean when feelings fade.
you started shrinking yourself just to avoid him calling you annoying or asking for “too much”
Yes but only at the end. he was not like that when he love me
i stayed with someone who got colder and then started making me feel small for needing anything at all, like i was “too much” just for asking for love. it messes with your head and makes you think that’s all you deserve
you deserve a partner who holds your feelings will care and dignity and respects you. I had a partner who was emotionally abusive at one point and he would be mean just to "be honest" but really what he was doing was distoying my self esteem so I didn't think i deserved better
I have the same situations and I partner, before we stop our relationship, she keeps saying her problem is my attitude. I am the problem when in fact she is the one creating the problem. She's been talking to some other girl and deleting messages. Even asking for affection she becomes irrational I'll and get angry so easily.
honestly I’m going through the same thing, it sucks and for me I keep trying and just want him to treat me the way he used to, but I kept pushing and that didn’t help it honestly made him more cold and mean when I did nothing wrong. no contact is probably what I should’ve done so I didn’t keep getting hurt
No thats not normal. He isn't the one. Free yourself
Really, or just to reassure myself? I don't want to rebuild my life on false ideas.